In an intimate relationship we have the ability to create our own future and plan for what we want to occur. Of course, a relationship may throws us for a loop and things transpire that we do not have control over, but you should not feel forced to stay in a situation that you do not want to be in.  It is at that point, where we need to learn when it is time to create another chapter.  When do you know to close one chapter of your life and create another?

For myself, I have two aspects that I consider before I close one relationship chapter and begin another:

  1. Happiness- My happiness is VERY important to me and I do not jeopardize that for anyone.  Of course, I will compromise and do things I dislike for the ones I love. BUT it does not mean I will confine myself to a situation where I am constantly unhappy and feeling down on myself.
  2. Worth- Is this situation worth my time? There are only 24 hours in a day and every minute should be accounted for.  I really hate to waste my time on WISHING someone else will change or consider my feelings.  If I told you what I disliked and we spoke about it and had an understanding, yet, you are still disregarding me, it is but so many chances I will give you.  Wasting my time with you I could be missing my blessing elsewhere.

So ladies, think about that situation you are currently in, are you unhappy? How long have you been unhappy? Have you spoke to your mate about the issue? How did that conversation go? Communication is very important in any relationship but it comes to a point where the convo must be stopped and the door must be closed. Learn when to close that chapter and start another. Stand firm and move forward.


~There comes a point in your life when you realize: Who matters, Who  never did, Who won't anymore, And who always will. So, don't worry about  people from your past, there's a reason why they didn't make it  to your future.~  Adam Lindsay Gordon

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