Recently on our twitter site a question was posted, as a woman do you feel it is ok to break traditional roles and go for the guy you want and ask him out? What do you think?
There are two sides to this answer. Your first reaction may be, HELL NO!! He needs to ask me out. That’s what every girl wants, to be courted, wined and dined, enjoying herself, then one day he asks to make everything official. Sounds like a fairly tale doesn’t it? If it was that easy we’d all be “wifed” up. Now for some, this is their reality, wish we were all so lucky. Reality is… we live in just that, REALITY! I’m not saying that a man should be let off the hook, because it is nice to still have some of the traditional roles of a man and a woman. And there are still a lot of men out there who do feel the same way and go after their women. However, there are times when we need to take matters into our own hands. You and I both know that men are not complicated creatures, but they are hard to read at times and aren’t always as smart as we think they are. Scenario: You’ve been dating for sometime and your ready for more and he seems to be as well. Why hasn’t he asked you to be his girlfriend yet? You’re sending all the right signals, saying all the right things. Yet no question. If you really like him and want to take another step into the future, what’s so wrong with asking him? Maybe he is nervous, fear of rejection, isn’t where he wants to be personally and can’t bring himself to ask. You can’t complain about something if you haven’t tried to take matters into your own hands. Take charge of your life and go for what you want. If you don’t ask him, try setting a standard. Talk with him, tell him where you’d like for the relationship to go and it needs to happen soon, give him the opportunity to ask you and then if still nothing, be ready to move on and not settle.
It’s ok to take charge, after all, its your life.