I’m 27 years old, should I be engaged? 3 Reasons to Consider

Ah, the infamous late 20’s and the question of marriage, when should you be engaged? Well, of course the most obvious answer would be, get engaged when you feel like getting married. But it is something about those late 20s where OTHER people begin to wonder and ask, “So, when are you getting married?”

When I was in high school, I just knew I would be married by 25 and have a child. Welp, it wasn’t until I entered my 20s when I learned how life REALLY works and having a child and marriage by 25 was unrealistic for me. However, to an outsider my time is ticking and I should be walking down the aisle. Majority of my close friends are in the same age group and the consensus about being married is that, NOW is NOT the TIME.

Here are 3 reasons why now is not the time:


  1. Career:      Your 20s should be your time to become consumed by your career goals. It is the time to figure out your niche, find your path and start your  journey.
  1. Freedom: Your 20s are normally the first time that you may have totally live on your own and are fending for yourself. This sense of freedom and independence can be exhilarating and empowering. It is that self awareness that you may not have noticed in your teen years.
  1. The Mate: Dating in your 20s can be hard at times. Finding that match or soul mate could take longer than some wouldhave hoped. Plus, if you’re dealing with people within your same age group, they too, could be experiencing the same things you are, making NOW NOT THE TIME.

There are a plethora of reasons why NOW may not be the time, but I am not saying don't make time, if marriage is for you. If marriage is for you, you MUST make time for it to happen and take place. Marriage can be a beautiful entity and if it is for you, go for it! Everyone is different and at the end of it all, you have to do what makes you happy.

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