One of my contacts on BBM had a status that read, “if you knew better you’d do better” I stopped and thought about this statement and its true meaning. It made me think about all the things we, as women do know yet we chose not to see it or avoid it, especially in relationships. I’m sure we’ve all had those relationships where we knew we shouldn’t be in and/or could do so much better, yet, we stayed. ..Or how about those arguments that could have definitely been avoided, yet, we chose to engage anyway. We seem to or think we have all the answers at times, but we chose not to see it even when it’s right in front of our faces. So is it true, if we did know better would we even do better?
I wanted to discuss this because too many times I have heard about women and their relationship stories and so many “faults” women share about their man and it makes me wonder if he is so bad or wrong why stay with him? Ladies, please don’t take offense, BUT we really know how to complain and complain and complain about our men and how they didn’t do this or didn’t do that, or they need this or need that. Seriously, if he makes you that upset or you’re not comfortable with his lifestyle, why do you stay? It appears you know better but doing better is whole other story.
Many months ago Rev. Run (for those that are on twitter @revrunwisdom) posted a quote that stood out to me “If you tolerate it you lose your right to complain about it” I couldn’t agree more with this statement. If someone in your life is doing something that you just cannot stand and you have a talk with them and the two of you cannot come to a common ground that’s comfortable for both parties, something has to give. I’m not 100 percent sure what has to give but something must, constantly complaining about a person isn’t a product of a healthy relationship for you or them and it will just leave room for confusion and anguish, and who has time for that…I surely don’t.
~Be what you SEEK~