Mother May I? By Guest Blogger

tileah 2tileahThe desire to have a healthy adult relationship with my mother is something that's been plaguing my mind lately. I see so many variations of adult parental relationships in my path and I wonder how to tweak mine to get the right fit.

I recently met a woman who is on the path to entering my profession. Her every sentence it seemed began with "mommy says". This happened to the extent that I had to include her in an activity which included revealing one's age because I thought she couldn't be beyond her early 20's and still need this much guidance in her daily life. As a matter of fact, most of my teenage students don't need that much guidance in their daily lives.  Lo and behold, she was almost 40 and still holding to fast to the belief that her mother was all knowing the way a young child would.

Her constant references to her mother reminded me of the relationship between Howard and his mother on The Big Bang Theory. His mother recognizes that he's old enough to have a sex life (late 20's), but still takes him to the dentist, does his laundry and asks if his friends have permission from their parents to come over and play. In the immortal words of Keith Sweat, something just ain't right! Read more

The Haves and Have Not: 24 Hours in a Day

haves and have notSo much is going on in life that it is easy to fall victim of depression and self doubt.  Current situations are not always what you intended them to be and more than likely can become so overbearing that you lose focus of a hopeful future.  We all have been in situations where the light at the end of the tunnel seems nonexistent. But it comes to a point where we have to be our own cheerleader and root for ourselves.  As the Tyler Perry show depicts, the HAVES and the HAVE NOTS, we have to consciously determine which side are we on; the Haves or the Have Not.

Recently, I was on a celebrity’s Instagram and it said “do not hate on my success, we all have the same 24hours.”  I want you to think about that quote for a minute. Think about how true and accurate that is. Of course, we all come from different backgrounds and have different mitigating circumstances BUT we all have 24 hours to get things done. It all depends on what you chose to do with those 24 hours.  According to best author Robert Greene, of 48 Laws of Power, in his newest book Mastery, he explained it takes a minimum of 10,000 hours to master a skill. How many hours per day are you dedicating to your craft/skill? Read more

Breast Cancer Awareness Month

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October is designated as Breast Cancer Awareness month. Breast Cancer Awareness month is an annual campaign that increases its promotion for the disease in hopes to educate everyone about this illness.  During this time there are many workshops, summits, and screenings that everyone can be a part of. One of the leading misconceptions is that breast cancer just affects women. That is simply not true, men run the risk of breast cancer as well, and therefore everyone must be aware of this disease.

The most common question is what is breast cancer?

Cancer begins in the cells which are the basic building blocks that make up tissue. Tissue is found in the breast and other parts of the body. Sometimes, the process of cell growth goes wrong and new cells form when the body doesn’t need them and old or damaged cells do not die as they should. When this occurs, a buildup of cells often forms a mass of tissue called a lump, growth, or tumor.

Breast cancer occurs when malignant tumors develop in the breast. These cells can spread by breaking away from the original tumor and entering blood vessels or lymph vessels, which branch into tissues throughout the body. When cancer cells travel to other parts of the body and begin damaging other tissues and organs, the process is called metastasis. [1] Read more

Two Steps To Creating a lifestyle of Your Dreams

tileahIn life we all have our hopes, dreams and desires but only a few will actually make those dreams come true. Based on magazines, news, and social media, we see tangible things that we want and ultimately have a desire to obtain them. From Pinterest and magazines, depicting to us the latest trends in interior designs, to designer clothing and shoes, we become engulf in this fantasy lifestyle that we want to create.  But how do we manage our current lifestyle in order to get into our fantasy lifestyle?

As the old cliché goes, people are trying to keep up with the Jones’s-who ever they are. Sadly, many people live above their means trying to create a lifestyle of lux and glam before building the foundation to uphold such reward.  We all want and deserve nice things, but everything comes with a price.  The lifestyle that we want for ourselves and the lifestyle we see celebrities and superstars living, did you ever wonder how did they get there? Did you ever put yourself in their shoes? Some people aren’t born with a silver spoon and therefore they have to work to obtain the life of glam and lux. Living above your means, may last for a while but eventually that to will come to an end.

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Would Dr. King be Proud of You?

tileahToday marks the 50th Anniversary of the Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr, “I have a Dream Speech” in Washington DC.  A speech that was prolific for shaping and molding of not only Black history but for American history.  Dr. King’s speech was a nostalgic look of where Black Americans have been and his hopeful optimistic future outlook of where it should be and what needs to be done to get there.

Take a look back to the past, 50 years was not that long ago. 50 years ago, we were still fighting for civil liberties and equality.  Today I will reflect on this day of my ancestors and of the trials and tribulations my people have been through as well as the journey of my country.  Today I will reflect on how Dr. King was such an inspiration and diligent servant to the community and nation at large.  His dream to be equal and united should not go unrecognized for we are where we are today because of his bold actions.

Today I will ask myself the question, is Dr. King’s dream being fulfilled, would Dr. King be proud of me? Is Dr. King proud of his people and nation?  These and many more are questions I wonder and I consider before I make any actions in my life.  Dr. King’s dream was important and it’s important that we follow that dream and we make that dream come true. Our nation has come a long way, but as recent national events have shown, progress is still needed. What are you contributing to make this world a better place and fulfill the dream of Dr. King?