The desire to have a healthy adult relationship with my mother is something that's been plaguing my mind lately. I see so many variations of adult parental relationships in my path and I wonder how to tweak mine to get the right fit.
I recently met a woman who is on the path to entering my profession. Her every sentence it seemed began with "mommy says". This happened to the extent that I had to include her in an activity which included revealing one's age because I thought she couldn't be beyond her early 20's and still need this much guidance in her daily life. As a matter of fact, most of my teenage students don't need that much guidance in their daily lives. Lo and behold, she was almost 40 and still holding to fast to the belief that her mother was all knowing the way a young child would.
Her constant references to her mother reminded me of the relationship between Howard and his mother on The Big Bang Theory. His mother recognizes that he's old enough to have a sex life (late 20's), but still takes him to the dentist, does his laundry and asks if his friends have permission from their parents to come over and play. In the immortal words of Keith Sweat, something just ain't right! Read more