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Finding Your Workplace Zen By: Guest Blogger Shavon C. Evelyn

zen at workI often wonder how Claire Huxtable did it. Loving wife and mother, successful partner in a prestigious law firm, thoroughly involved in her family's lives, generally content and fashionable to boot! She was our superwoman and everywoman all at the same time. Well my dears, I think she was able to do it all because she actually doesn't exist!  She was a character precisely executing a well written, idealized script. Wouldn't it be fantastic if real life came with a script or better yet an "easy" button that helped us work it all out every day?

Well we are not blessed with manuscripts, we are however blessed with the amazing gift of free will! We can, with some thought, carefully crafted conversations, prioritizing and true commitment to our own well being find our personal zen state. We can even make it happen without abandoning our families, careers or grown up responsibilities. 

Jack Welch, the former CEO of General Electric made the very blunt statement that for women climbing the corporate ladder there is “no such thing as work-life balance”. He further stated that “there are work-life choices, you make them and they have consequences” according to a July 2009 article in the Wall Street Journal. Well, I along with many of the women to whom he was presenting at the Society for Human Resource Management’s annual conference beg to differ! What old Jack fails to realize is that it is not only possible, but necessary to find effective ways to not only manage, but minimize stress. It is crucial that we ensure that our connection to our inner selves and loved ones remains stronger than the ties that bind us to our desks. 

Workplace stress can lead to a multitude of psychological, emotional and behavioral signals that can impact your health and well being. The International Stress Management Association identifies some of these symptoms as:    Read more

Smell the Roses : Enjoying the Simple Life

smellFrom childhood people have always asked us, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” Time and time again we always have heard the question, and majority of the time we had an answer. From I want to be a doctor, lawyer, and an actress, to the President of the United States, whatever it may be, as children we knew what we wanted to be.   Then you hit your twenties and life goes BOOM! You’re completely confused because the plans for yourself have tremendously changed OR you woke up one day and decided you wanted to do something else. Either way, here we are in our twenties, faced with the new question, “what are you doing in your life?”

Stress and depression may soon start to kick in because we realize time waits for no one and ahead all we see is age thirty. BOOM! We need a career, a house, a family, etc. We need all the possessions society tells us we must have. We get so consumed in what we must have by a certain age we tend to forget all of the positive things that is going on around us. We forget to smell the roses.

After it was brought to my attention that I was not smelling the roses and praising the baby steps, I decided to STOP and MAKE A CHANGE. This was brought to my attention a few years ago and since then I have a new outlook and it is still a work in progress.

Here a few tips to slow down: Read more

The Circle You Keep

the circle you keepAs a child my mother always told me to pay attention to my surroundings when I am out public.  That means pay attention when I cross the streets, look for exit signs if I’m in big arenas, take heed to the people around me if I’m in a crowded area.  The whole point is to pay attention to what’s around me.

As a grown woman this concept of paying attention to my surroundings has a deeper meaning.  It’s more than watching those around you; it’s about who I decide to stay around.  We all heard the old cliché’ “birds of a feather flock together.” I find that to be an accurate statement.  People tend to hang around those they can relate to, people that are on their same level, people that can understand them, and people that share the same interest.  People want to be around like minded individuals and with that come a story of who you are. As the old saying goes, “show me who you hang with I’ll show you who you are.”  Who you hang around with tells a juicy story about who you are.

We all have friends from childhood that are more like relatives. Those are people we consider “ride or dies” they were there before you had what you had and they will be there afterwards.  However, those should also be people that do not bring you down. They may not be on the same level as you and that’s okay, but they also should try to bring you off your level. Who you surround yourself with influences how high you rise. Read more

Are You Running The Winners Lap?

finish lineIf you know me, or want to get to know me, you will find that I am known for making extreme analogies when it comes to comparing stages of life. When I feel someone doesn’t fully grasps a concept, I try to change the scenario to a level that will make it easier to understand. With that in mind, I started to think about the victory lap in a race. Have you ever watched a race and/or ran in a race, did you ever notice the victory lap that the winners run at the end? Oddly enough, I’ve always pay close attention to the victory lap. Why you ask? It’s because the appearance of victory is appealing to me. I love to see people conquer their goals. The expression of defeating something that more than likely someone said you couldn’t is always attractive.

Have you every conquered or achieve anything? Do you remember your expression? I’m pretty sure it was passionate. When you work really hard at something and it finally pays off you can’t help but be filled with joy. BUT here is the kicker with the victory lap. In order to run the victory lap, it means two points; one, you RAN the race and two, you WON. Those two key factors are very important to understand. In order to get to the point of victory you have to be IN the race, and once you’re IN the race you have to WIN the race. Read more

5 Lessons on How to Give a Good READ

shadeAfter watching my guilty pleasure, Real Housewives of Atlanta (RHOA) last night I was cracking up over the concept of being “READ”. Now, for those who do NOT know what a “READ” is, let me explain: to READ someone is to CHECK them, put them in their place, basically to let them know you are NOT the one and to NOT even try it!  #BOOM

Now, as Cynthia from RHOA puts it, “when you look better, you read better.” You have to look good while giving and receiving a good READ. And I agree, especially if you’re receiving the READ. Looking busted while receiving a READ is just not a desirable appearance. BUT if your face is beat to the Gwads, and your outfit is Flawless, well then you take that READ and twirl, ESPECIALLY, if you do not have anything else to say.

Let’s be clear, there are rules and regulations to a good READ:

Lesson 1: Make sure your READING the right person. It’s nothing cute about READING someone who didn’t start the shade throwing. Know your audience. Focus that READ to the person that deserves it the most. Target the peanut gallery folks later. Read more