The Slings & Arrows of Outrageous Dating By Guest Blogger

cupidI like to think that every experience has a purpose.  I keep trying to figure out the point of all my twisted dead end journeys down romance lane. I think I've finally found it! The purpose my fellow damsels in-not-so-much distress is to share the journey with you! Hopefully to help you avoid some of my pitfalls but definitely to share some laughs and make sure that your headlights are on as you enjoy your travels.

One of my favorite quotes is "men are like buses, if you miss one the next one will be along soon" (adopted from Wendy Cope). Another is from Maya Angelou, "don't just be an aging female, be a real woman." The combination of the two makes for some really interesting social encounters. I spent a couple of years as a “serial dater” and came across some interesting and amusing “buses” along the way.

Bus # 1 is Mr. I'm Not Ready to Commit but I don't want you to see anyone else. He's the guy with whom you go out to romantic dinners, share luminous laughter, have tons in common, hold hands in the street, spend hours on the phone or staring lovingly into each other’s eyes. He involves you in most if not all of his decision making, constantly tells you how much he values you, but reminds you periodically that he's not ready to consider you his girlfriend. What's this dude's deal & what's the definition of girlfriend on his planet?

The remedy: Listen carefully. He'll tell you who he is and what he's about in the midst of sweeping you off your feet. The mistake that most of we female phenoms make is that we think all that stuff from his past doesn't apply to us in the present. But wasn't our most poignant lesson in social studies class that history repeats itself? Read more

Does Your Family Influence Your Dating Life?

tileah*Plot* My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months and we are very compatible. He has two children from a previous relationship and has a very good paying career. I do not have any children. He makes me happy and vice versa, we are each others soul mates. We are thinking of taking the next step and getting a place together, but first he must meet my family. Uh oh, I wonder how this will go.

Last week, I was watched the Real Housewives of Atlanta and thought about the discussion/ debate between Kandi and her mother, Mama Joyce over Kandi’s fiancé Todd.  It made me think of the question, could your family be too involved in your bedroom?

When we get into relationships, one of the many hurdles us women put our significant other under is the ‘family test.’ We want to bring him around our families and see how he meshes in. Does my mom like him? How about the grandparents? Can he interact with my cousins? And the ultimate, does my father like him? These are all the questions and then some that race through our minds when we have a new special love interest. But what if your family isn’t too receptive? What do you do now? Read more