The Circle You Keep

the circle you keepAs a child my mother always told me to pay attention to my surroundings when I am out public.  That means pay attention when I cross the streets, look for exit signs if I’m in big arenas, take heed to the people around me if I’m in a crowded area.  The whole point is to pay attention to what’s around me.

As a grown woman this concept of paying attention to my surroundings has a deeper meaning.  It’s more than watching those around you; it’s about who I decide to stay around.  We all heard the old cliché’ “birds of a feather flock together.” I find that to be an accurate statement.  People tend to hang around those they can relate to, people that are on their same level, people that can understand them, and people that share the same interest.  People want to be around like minded individuals and with that come a story of who you are. As the old saying goes, “show me who you hang with I’ll show you who you are.”  Who you hang around with tells a juicy story about who you are.

We all have friends from childhood that are more like relatives. Those are people we consider “ride or dies” they were there before you had what you had and they will be there afterwards.  However, those should also be people that do not bring you down. They may not be on the same level as you and that’s okay, but they also should try to bring you off your level. Who you surround yourself with influences how high you rise. Read more

Are You Running The Winners Lap?

finish lineIf you know me, or want to get to know me, you will find that I am known for making extreme analogies when it comes to comparing stages of life. When I feel someone doesn’t fully grasps a concept, I try to change the scenario to a level that will make it easier to understand. With that in mind, I started to think about the victory lap in a race. Have you ever watched a race and/or ran in a race, did you ever notice the victory lap that the winners run at the end? Oddly enough, I’ve always pay close attention to the victory lap. Why you ask? It’s because the appearance of victory is appealing to me. I love to see people conquer their goals. The expression of defeating something that more than likely someone said you couldn’t is always attractive.

Have you every conquered or achieve anything? Do you remember your expression? I’m pretty sure it was passionate. When you work really hard at something and it finally pays off you can’t help but be filled with joy. BUT here is the kicker with the victory lap. In order to run the victory lap, it means two points; one, you RAN the race and two, you WON. Those two key factors are very important to understand. In order to get to the point of victory you have to be IN the race, and once you’re IN the race you have to WIN the race. Read more

What Your Workspace Says About You and Your Weirdness: By Guest Blogger

wash and dryeSo I’m not sure how the phenomena began but somewhere along the line folks have started using their workspace as a literal home away from home. I’m talking about these cubicles and the ways that people try to make them their own. True story, there’s a woman who has a toaster and a microwave under her desk. When I ask her why she doesn’t just use the one in the kitchen in the company break room, she tells me that she doesn’t want to be responsible for cleaning them if she uses them. There’s another woman down the hall who has at least 30 plants in her workspace. The leaves spill out over her desktop and into the adjoining cubicles and no one says anything!  So just for fun I walk up and down the aisles and I start to categorize the cubicles of the Sistahs. Here they are in no particular order:

Stuffed Sistah: Stuffed animals, stuffed beanie babies, stuffed anything. The entire cubicle is one big advertisement for Nick Junior.

Candy Land Sistah: There’s an M & M dispenser and a bowl of Kit Kats along with glass jars filled with jolly ranchers, Swedish fish and sugar babies.

OO7 Sistah: Always whispering and never without her headphones on. She’s got passwords on the phone, her desktop and on the combination locks on her desk drawers. She’s also got a privacy screen made of the darkest material known to Best Buy.

106 & Park Sistah: Every concert ticket, poster and t-shirt for Trey Songs, Justin Timberlake and Usher can be found in this workspace. She thinks no one notices that she’s always watching music videos and listening to Pandora. Read more

Tips for Balancing a Job while Pursing Your Professional Goals

balance-your-life photo by tapout101If you’re anything like me, coffee becomes your bestie, you work full time, have a career you’re pursing, blueprinting  your own business, maintaining personal relationships with your man, family and friends, being active within in the church, volunteering in the community, all while wishfully wishing you could just sip wine on a beach and relax. WHEW!! A lot happens in 24hours and yet in still the job is never done.  As I am evolving more in my different endeavors, I am finding time is the hardest concept to handle. 24 hours just does not seem to be enough but it’s all we have so we have no choice but to make it work.  But how do we make it work?

Working out a routine may be challenging but I find it’s the best way to ensure you get everything done in a timely fashion.  Now, I know most people hate routines and like to live the spontaneous lifestyle. But when you’re out here trying to make money and accomplish goals, some lifestyles you have to sacrifice.   A big leap into obtaining your goals calls for extreme measures. Here are a few tips to help you get started: Read more

Two Steps To Creating a lifestyle of Your Dreams

tileahIn life we all have our hopes, dreams and desires but only a few will actually make those dreams come true. Based on magazines, news, and social media, we see tangible things that we want and ultimately have a desire to obtain them. From Pinterest and magazines, depicting to us the latest trends in interior designs, to designer clothing and shoes, we become engulf in this fantasy lifestyle that we want to create.  But how do we manage our current lifestyle in order to get into our fantasy lifestyle?

As the old cliché goes, people are trying to keep up with the Jones’s-who ever they are. Sadly, many people live above their means trying to create a lifestyle of lux and glam before building the foundation to uphold such reward.  We all want and deserve nice things, but everything comes with a price.  The lifestyle that we want for ourselves and the lifestyle we see celebrities and superstars living, did you ever wonder how did they get there? Did you ever put yourself in their shoes? Some people aren’t born with a silver spoon and therefore they have to work to obtain the life of glam and lux. Living above your means, may last for a while but eventually that to will come to an end.

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