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April 30, 2012

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A Dream Deferred

What happens to a dream deferred?

Does it dry up
like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore--
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over--
like a syrupy sweet?

Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.

Or does it explode?

-Langston Hughes

At church yesterday the guest Preacher delivered a message about Dreams. During her sermon she referenced the infamous poem by Poet Langston Hughes, “A Dream Deferred”. After the service, the notion of a dream deferred stuck to me and I began to ask the question, what happens to a dream deferred?

Growing up I’ve always dreamt of becoming a lawyer and in my adult years I still do want to make that a dream come true, however, there are some obstacles. These obstacles keep arising and it makes me wander is this a dream I should pursue? Battling back and forth with myself I began to doubt that becoming a lawyer just wasn’t for me, so I began to search for alternative career goals. Upon discovering another career path (in which I love) I can see how a profession of a lawyer could, too, fit in the new career path. It seems as if no matter what task I do or what I may think of the notion of becoming a lawyer can somehow play a part. So I’m wandering is a dream that keeps reoccurring in my mind really deferred?

During service the Preacher spoke about how timing is everything but only in God’s time it will be done. And then it came to me like an epiphany, perhaps it is not my time to see that dream come trueYET. The fact that this dream constantly reveals itself to me, leads to believe that it is in me to accomplish it but the timing must be right. Now the next step is figuring out when that time is. But I think I’ll know it once it comes. I’m a firm believer in faith and I have faith that my dream is not deferred it is just waiting for the right time to blossom.

On that note, if you have a dream that you feel deep in your heart you want to accomplish DO IT! I believe there is a reason our mind keeps back tracking and bringing those dreams back to remind us they are not deferred, it is just waiting for the right time to shine.

So to answer my own question, what happens to a dream deferred? I think it just lingers there in our minds and hearts until we achieve it.

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Tileah Aisha

April 25, 2012

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Pilar Sanders Did What!??!??

As I was getting my daily fix of celebrity news and gossip, I came across Pilar Sanders (soon to be ex-wife of former infamous NFL player Deion Sanders) mug shot. Now what in the world is going on?!?! As I continued my research it appears she was arrested and taking into custody for domestic abuse charges. It is reported that she allegedly ATTACKED Deion at his home O_o. Of course she is denying these allegations and I guess we will have to find out the truth in court. However, this brings me to the topic of, “when to say enough”.

The term living wouldn’t exist if we didn’t go through situations and tribulations that impaired our judgments. We are human, we have emotions and many times we act solely on emotion rather than extensive comprehension. When we act solely on emotions, we sometimes forget to think rationally and it’s our irrational behavior that overcomes and the outcome can never be predicted. Acting on emotions can sometime impair a good judgment and make someone do or say things he or she may not necessarily say or mean, but it happens. The question is when is it enough? When we go through issues we always react with our emotions, especially if the situation is personal. We rarely want to stop and think before we react because we are caught up in the moment that we forget about anything else. I am sure we have all had moments were we were just irrational and dealt with a situation in a negative manner. We are human, it happens. BUT we must remember for every action there is a reaction and that counteraction can end up costing us something bigger. Thinking before we react can sometimes seem pointless or time consuming but at least you have a chance to decide if you want to take the chance.

Now I do not know the entire story with Pilar and Deion, but what is known is that they have children involved with their divorce. And all of their actions and reactions are being watched not only by us but most importantly their children. We all must learn when to say Enough is Enough before it's too late.

Pilar, hunnie mugshot in all, lip gloss is poppin!

XoXo,

Tileah Aisha

April 13, 2012

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The “Swirl”

Do you get down with the swirl? You know the swirl… Dating outside of your race, be it black and white, black and Asian, black and Spanish, white and Indian, Indian and Spanish, etc. You get the idea. There are a lot of people out there who are very much against this idea. Most people haven’t even tried and they are dead set against this. Why not apply the rule of which you date like you do to the food you eat? Can’t say you don’t like something unless you’ve tried it., you taste a food to see if you like it right? Why not try dating someone that doesn’t look like you then base your decision? Even then it’s hard because one person cannot represent an entire race.

Some people say they just aren’t attracted to people outside of their race. How could you say that? People are people; you choose not to be attracted. Or people say, if only that person’s features were on skin that looked like mine they’d be attractive. Can you really be that hooked up on color? Now I am not bashing people who are against it. I am just saying be open and think beyond the color. It would be a shame for you to meet someone outside of your race and have a connection like no other, and not explore your possibilities because they are different then you. You may have just missed out on the person you are suppose to spend the rest of your life with.

There is nothing wrong with interracial relationships, majority of us are not pure bloods anyway. I am sure if you open up your mind to dating outside your race, your pool of prospects will more than double. Women always claim there aren’t enough good men out there. Truth is, there are, you just have to look beyond your own race. If you have the idea in your head that you can only date someone that looks like you then your going to have a whole lot harder of a time finding someone for you than a woman who is open to other races.

You would think that our generation and during these times, interracial relationships would be embraced more. They are definitely more common than they used to be and accepted by others more. Yes we all have our difference, but as adults we can come together and discuss them and not allow race to divide us amongst the human race.

Now as much as I agree with interracial relationships, there are times I have an issue with them. My issue is when people only date outside of their race because they feel the men/women within their race are no good. Perhaps it’s just the type of guys/girls you are dating. Or if they only date one type of race, not there own, because they feel they treat are better. Sorry to break it to you but a man/woman is not going to treat you any better just because he/she is white, black, Spanish, Indian, or Asian. They are going to treat you the way they were raised or has learned through experience.

Open your mind, and experience new people and things. You may surprise yourself and find the person of your dreams where you least expect it. Love has no age, color, religion, ethnicity, or class. Love is all about the connection purely between two people.

Peace & Love

~Gwendolyn Renee

April 11, 2012

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Anomaly: 2012 Art, Fashion, and Music ft. Camille Safiya

On March 30th I got the great pleasure of attending Anomaly 2012: Art, Fashion, and Music, a showcase of artist in different mediums. The women who participated in this event were out of this world! The talent in the venue was bursting through the walls. When first arriving you can hear the music bumping all the way down to the front door. It immediately got you amped to have a good time. When the elevator doors opened you were surround by good people, good vibes, and even more pleasurable art plastered all over the walls, by Camille Safiya, a young up and coming artist, soon to be graduate of Temple University, Tyler School of Arts. I got the opportunity to talk with Camille about her art, influences, and style. Check out the interview below.

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~Gwendolyn Renee

LCC: What is your mission as an Artist?

CS: My mission as an Artist is to spread CreARTivity. CreARTivity is a concept I came up with that stands for “Create Relative Energy Amongst Real Talented Indi-Viduals in Today’s Youth.” My goal is to nourish the youth around the world. I feel that the younger generation of the world is the future and as long as feed them Artistically we empower them.

LCC: Being a female, do you feel you are embraced more or less as an Artist in the Art world?

CS: I love being a female Artist and the confidence I exude makes other love and embrace the fact that I am a female Artist. As a Wombman I have the ability to create life, I have been blessed to be able to take the gift of creation and apply it to Art. Every one of my paintings gives birth to new ideologies and new concepts.

LCC: How do you express your femininity in your Art?

CS: Every time I create whether painting, designing, dyeing, sculpting, cooking, glassblowing, singing, or taking photos I am constantly a vessel for the femininity GOD has blessed me with. I equate my femininity and giving nature to that of a Tree. Trees are constantly feeding every being around them, with oxygen, fruits, herbs and flowers. All they ask for is sunlight in return. Wombman do the same, we are the givers of our world and provide life and nourishment to all.

LCC: Viewing your paintings on your website, they have an Afro-Centric vibe to them and women seem to be the main subject in some pieces. Where does your motivation come from?

CS: The majority of the paintings on my website are from my first solo exhibition, “In Her Element,” in Harlem 2009. At that point in my life I was growing into wombmanhood and feeling like a blossoming flower. I felt that I was really in my element. I consider all of my painting Afro-Centric because Africa is always on my mind and in heart while I create. My motivation comes from the Wombmen in my family that have shown such strength and virtue in raising and nourishing our tribe.

LCC: Your pieces in the Anomaly 2012 show were different than those on your website, where did the motivation come from for those pieces?

CS: Many of the painting in Anomaly 2012 were live performance pieces where I was in front of groups of people usually performing with a singer, rapper, DJ, poet, etc. Paintings like “Dissecting Pluto, Venus, Sunrise and Seasons on Saturn” were literal transfers of energy that I felt, heard, or saw during my performance. This series was not concerned with a representational image; rather they were concerned with representing energy. I am a vessel, and when I perform I just let the energy of the event I am at flow through me, as I record it with color, line and mark.

LCC: How does your artistic scenes reflect your art style, or vice versa?

CS: I surround myself with creative beings that transfer the light and energy that inspires my paintings. I always bring that same creative light with me when I leave the house and give it to everyone I come in contact with, even if it is just with a simple smile or greeting.

LCC: What kind of atmosphere do you like to create your work in?

CS: I love to work in all types of atmospheres. I get an adrenaline rush from being in new places; my passion is traveling so I am always inspired by new environments.

LCC: What advice would you give other female artist out there?

CS: Love freely and use your creative instincts to build a healthy respectable environment for yourself and those around you to grow. You are a Queen, treat yourself like it and you will exude positivity that demands respect and Love from everyone.

To check out more of Camille’s art, you can go to her website, http://CamilleSafiya.com/

April 11, 2012

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A Dream Deferred

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