March 2012

The weekend is here and it’s perfect dating weather. When was the last time you went on a first date? Were you nervous? Well you shouldn’t be; the first date doesn’t have to be complicated. We all have those moments where we had butterflies and we couldn’t seem to contain our emotions but the first date should not be a math problem instead it should be more like Chemistry. It’s just two new people coming together and possibly meshing into each other’s lives.

Here are a few basic tips to help you prepare for your first date:

1.  Encourage Yourself

Self love is always appreciated when embracing something new and unfamiliar. Use this time to stare at yourself in the mirror and give yourself a little pep talk. It is time to boost your confidence and tell yourself just how cute you look in that new outfit. There isn’t anything wrong with self reflecting and getting your ‘pretty girl swag’ on. This works perfect before a first date to ensure your self esteem is high and you’re ready for whatever comes your way.

2.  The Outfit

The outfit can be classy, chic with a stunning taste of seduction. The outfit should not scream raunchy SEX (not on the first date ladies) but it shouldn’t resemble Old Mother Hubbard either. Wear something that makes you feel good and expresses your personality. This is your first impression to someone, so make it a lasting one. I always opt for a pair of skinny jeans, high heel pumps, and bright colored blouse and accessories as a bonus. It states I’m fun, flirty with a little bit of edge.

3.  Pick the perfect location

Many first dates can fail based on the location itself. The first date should be a place where two people can interact on a personal level but a public place where everyone could feel comfortable. I suggest never having a first date at the movies. It just seems pointless to go on a date where we do not speak or look at each other. The first date is the time to interact and share each other’s personalities to determine if CUPID was right. Pick a location that allows you to have a good time plus allows for great conversation. Try a coffee shop, a restaurant, or even an arcade spot. This will allow for interaction on a competitive level which will bring out other emotions which are essential to recognize in your mate. The first date should be fun, select a place where you think you both will have a good time.

4.  PUT YOUR CELL PHONE AWAY

The absolute rudest act someone can do while on a date is play, talk, or text on their cell phone. How do you expect to get to know someone if you’re on your phone tweeting? This is your time to combine thoughts and interact with no distractions. So please, I know it can be difficult, but please cell phones away.

5.  Have Fun and Relax

This tip is by far the most important. Just take a deep breath, relax and have a good time. Life is about experiencing something new, learning about new people and enjoying all aspects of it. First dates are always the hardest to overcome but remind yourself that you are there to have a good time in good company.

With the weekend approaching I want to hear some of your tips for preparing for a first date.

Hit us up and lets us know your rituals for preparing for a first date

Xoxo,

Tileah Aisha

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This topic is for the ladies out there who are in relationships, and for any men who find them selves reading this blog, I suggest you pay attention. Fifteen minutes!! That’s all it takes. “That’s all what takes,” you may ask. Take fifteen minutes out of your day to give your significant other undivided and uninterrupted attention.  Try to make this a daily routine. Fifteen minutes may not seem like much, but if done every day it can help add to the longevity of your relationship. With this fifteen minutes there must be nothing going on but the two of you, and can be done at any time of the day. Turn off the TV, put down the cell phone and LEAVE IT, be in a room alone, and if you are not able to see you significant other, it’s ok to have your fifteen minutes over the phone. Not through text or email, but an actual phone conversations. Go into a quiet room away from all other people and distractions.

With these fifteen minutes, you are free to talk about anything, but the key work is TALK. Don’t just sit there together in the room silent. What’s the point in that? It can start off by simply recapping each other’s day. After time, the conversations will evolve. It’s a great way to open the lines of communication in your relationship. Especially for some of you ladies who are with men who don’t express themselves often or if at all, or that don’t keep lines of communication open all the time.

With all the technology of social networks and phones that basically make it so you don’t have to ever interact with a single soul, fifteen minutes of time together ALONE is needed. Our generation has lost our ability to communicate and interact with one another, and this will help bring that back and possibly save a lot of relationships. I know if I had put this fifteen minute exercise into effect, a lot of my relationships would have been different.

So give the fifteen minutes a try and if all goes well, those fifteen may turn into a half hour, maybe even an hour. This time can make a great relationship an amazing relationship and in some situations determine if this is the man you’d like to spend your life with.

Communication is Key

Peace & Love

~Gwendolyn Renee