How many of you know someone or have done yourself, use your femininity to get out of a ticket from the cops? I know I have on occasion. Now when I say using your femininity, I don’t mean you have to basically hint at the fact you’ll sleep with the man. I mean more like playing “the role”. Pretend you didn’t know something, drop stuff while looking for your registration, talk in a soft calm voice extra polite, complimenting him, asking about his job, you know, those sort of things. Now if you have done one or more, I am not here to judge. In fact, GIRL CONGRADULATIONS!! Why not use what you got, or play it up to save yourself a dime? Who wants to pay a $50, $75, $100, $150 ticket? Not I! There is nothing wrong with finding womanly ways to keep your day moving ticket free? If you haven’t even tried, go ahead see what you got. It hasn’t failed me yet. We are in turbulent times, and you have to make that extra money or save that money to make it by. And I don’t know about you, but a ticket is not an expense I want to add to my life, which does not fall under neither, making money or saving money category. Don’t let anyone tell you what you’re during is wrong. Just ask them how many times THEY have gotten out of tickets! J
When hip hop and pop news struck that Rihanna had Chris Brown featured on her song “Birthday Cake” the media went absolutely bananas. Headlines were everywhere, blogs were posting out of control, radio was anxiously replaying the song and even the morning news had an entertainment story. But this song was actually just the icing on the cake (pun intended). For months now speculation has been going around about Chris and Rihanna reuniting. It was the infamous social media of TWITTER that began the rumors and assumptions. All it took was one tweet and the media went on a rampage to fish out more info. So of course after this song was released and the lyrics analyzed this was the confirmation everyone was impatiently waiting for. It became apparent that Chris and Rihanna have reunited. This type of news makes me wonder when or if you should give people second chances?
We are all humans, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes but when are the mistakes too big for forgiveness? When news broke about Chris Brown being featured on Rihanna’s song the media could not understand how she could go back to him after what they went through. After all of the abuse and public humiliation how could she interact with him? It makes me wonder do people really believe in second chances. My answer would be yes. I do believe people believe in second chances and I do believe people deserve second chances. You’ve all heard of the cliché learn from your mistakes, I believe this is a true statement. If we make a mistake, and we learn and grow from it, I consider it a life lesson and moving forward is the next step. Holding someone to their past behavior or holding a grudge hinders progress. In order to overcome past behaviors and events you have to reflect, learn, grow and move forward. Perhaps, in a relationship manner, you may not have to go back to the person. However, forgiving the person and moving forward with your own life proves how mature you really are. I don’t think there is anything wrong with second chances if the maturity level has grown. People stay in situations or go back to situations for very personal reasons and as an outsider looking in we really should not pass judgment. I am pretty sure we have all taken back that cheater boyfriend or girlfriend, continued to be friends with that friend that stole from us, heck, we have been the one that needed the second chance, so who are we to judge? A second chance reveals something deeper than trying again. It reveals that you are willing to accept the person or situation for what it is, in hopes that the past does not reveal itself in the future. We all need, want, or have given or taken second chances, it’s a natural part of life…. Just make sure the second time is worth it.
While watching an old interview with Nicki Minaj on Chelsea Lately, Nicki was talking about the double standard of men and women in the work place. Men who are assertive, powerful, take charge, and works 110% to get what they want, they are a “Boss.” Women however, are assertive, powerful, take charge, and go beyond the 110% (because they have to in order to be noticed), and they are considered a “Bitch.”
Why is it that even though a male and female can achieve their ultimate career goals the same way, a man is considered a “boss” in the end and, a woman, “a bitch”? Should we as women just step back and let the men take control so we can have a clean and name free reputation? I THINK NOT! What is unfortunate though, is that no matter how we get there, we will be labeled. The two most common labels are like I said, “bitch,” or women who “sleep” their way to the top. Now because of those few, they ruin it for the rest of us who got there off of education, ideas, creativity, and so on. So which would you rather be labeled as? I personally would take “Bitch.”.
Is being considered a “bitch” all that bad though? Hear me out. Would you stifle your dream, take the back seat, or let other people take credit for something you know you can do so much better, just because you don’t want to be labeled a “bitch”? If you take control, have people respect you, put forth your best effort, get a pretty looking pay check, possibly have people working for you, great benefits, living a comfortable life, and all the other great things that come with being the “head hancho,” and the only thing you have to worry about is a name that co-workers or employees call you. Is it really that serious?
There are two types of labels. One, the kind where your label doesn’t match who you are, or two, the kind where your label does match who you are. Who do you want to be?
Can males and females just be friends? I’ve been hearing this question ever since I got a social life after puberty. I’m sure most of you have as well. I used to be naïve to the whole idea, but the older I got, the more I paid attention. I used to be one of those girls who said, “yes they can be just friends. That’s so immature of you to think they can’t, why not?” That’s because I was the girl who hung out with all the guys and never thought of any of them as more than just friends (unless one was my boyfriends at the time). But as I got older I noticed things began to change. Like I said the social life after puberty. Either I liked them or they liked me and it never turned into more because of one party, or after realizing it wouldn’t work, friends just seemed better. My best friend is a result of just that scenario, so I know from experience. Now along with that friendship came some male insight. Some for my personal use and some for future knowledge. For my own insight, I later on found out that at some point in time, one of my male friends liked me, or use to be or still is attracted to me. But, because they know I see them as no more than just friends, why go there? On the flipside, I myself have been attracted to male friends at one time or another and just left it at that.
You can even try another, more shallow approach. Lets say, you have a male and female friendship. One of you may not be so attractive (its reality lets face it). The lesser attractive friend may be attracted to their more attractive friend, but that friend doesn’t feel the same in return. In that case one of you is just there for pure friendship. Then the answer to the question would be yes. Lets be honest though, how often does that happen?
So, the answer to the question is…? NO. At some point in time there was never “just a friendship.” It may end that way, but it didn’t start or remain that way. Just have to submit to the fact; sex is always going to play a roll in your friendships.
There is so much to life but it seems as if people love to focus on the negative. For example, let’s take reality television, we all know it’s not REAL but we love it for the entertainment. However, the entertainment most of the time deals with drama. We love to see people arguing, fighting, cursing, going plain crazy and making a fool out of themselves for television time. Why is that? Why is it that people love to focus on destruction? I am victim myself, I love reality television and seeing all of the drama but to me it’s a moment out of my reality, if that makes sense. Watching reality television is a moment for me to take a break from my world and engage in the foolery just for a laugh. Seems crazy but hey I am sure I am not the only one.
But I do have a concern and that concern deals with the mentality of the public. The ratings for shows that are family oriented and send a good message are not as high as those shows that depict negative drama. I have an issue with that because where is the balance? Is society so caught up in negativity that we only like to see that on television? Is the happy home to UN-REAL for us to watch on television? I wonder this because marriage doesn’t seem too popular anymore, children before marriage is very popular and therefore television shows that depict “family” are they not realist enough? When I was growing up we had shows such as Family Matters, Cosby Show, Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Different World, etc. These shows depicted families in a positive image and sent a message of positivity and prosperity to those that watched. Nowadays it is all about the negative drama, the designer clothes, and who is dating and sleeping with the best athlete. Television producers they just want the ratings and therefore they are going to put on the production that renders just that. So who is to blame for all this foolishness on television?!!? I guess you and me since we are the ones that tune in; are we going to change though? Are we going to stop watching? More than likely not and I guess that is where the problem is…Hmmm…what can we do to get better images on television? We all play a significant role on what is being broadcast on televisions; perhaps once the audience changes their mindset then television producers will change theirs. I guess we are all a work-in-progress…