November 2011

Just when you thought you had it all figured out, a question is proposed to you that makes you really think.

While reading my book today the topic was, knowing what is important to you and knowing your purpose. I thought I had a pretty good idea as to what was important to me, but never really thought what my purpose was. So after reading the section I decided to make a list, “What’s Important To Me?” and “What Is My Purpose?” I had quite a hard time creating this list. The thoughts in my head weren’t exactly easy to write down. The feelings I had couldn’t quite manifest their way into words. At our age, being fairly new out of college, I am sure we are all still in search of who we are. This is a great time to figure that out and a great exercises to help with that process. Don’t feel bad if you can’t come up with anything to put on your list right away, its not that easy and I am sure there are plenty older adults who are still struggling with the same questions. But our generation and the times in which we are coming into age give us a greater advantage than our parents and grandparents time. So if your feeling a bit lost and not sure which way your life is headed, try making a list of these two question. Put them on separate pieces of paper and post them somewhere you will see them often. As the answers come to mind jot them down and the visual will be a constant reminder.

Sisterhood is one of the most sacred things a woman could have in her life. Yet, why do so few of us have it or support it? Yes, we all have our groups of friends that we may call family, sister, and so on, but what about the woman not in our circle? Why can’t they get the same care, respect, love, and support as our closest friends?  I sometimes find that we are quicker to tear each other down before we lift each other up.  How many of you have or know someone that hate on another woman because of what she has or has done or is involved with, but have no clear reason as to why you have such negative feelings toward her? We also talk about how we as women don’t get the same respect as men or how its so much harder for women, yet we don’t try and make it easier for each other by giving the support we all know we need. Stop hating on your sister and uplift her! It takes more energy to be negative than it does to be positive. Lend out a helping hand and that hand in return will help you, create a cycle and make it contagious. Imagine how powerful we could be as women if we support one another… Get out there and start the movement!

A caterpillar is born and shuffles through trees, plants, and just scrambles through life to reach that point where it hibernates and forms a cocoon and begins its transformation.  While in the cocoon it is transforming and getting ready for its next stage in life.  Lately I have felt like that caterpillar, going through the motions waiting for my cocoon so that I may transform.  However, while going through the motions I haven’t taken any time out to let the transformation occur.  Going through different obstacles, trying to stay focus and on task I tend to forget to take a time out and actually live in the present. I am so busy planning for the next day, talking about what happened yesterday, that I forget to enjoy TODAY.  Well, after coming to this realization I decided to take a time out from it all. I took a break from the world and begin to reflect on where I have come, what I have been through, where it has led me, and where it is leading me.  Taking this time out was so refreshing and uplifting that I gained a burst of energy and I am now ready to continue on. 

Every day we are changing, and it is best when we can acknowledge our own change and actually understand what is occurring and had occurred.  Appreciating the little steps will give better gratitude to the giant steps to come.  During my time out, I was able to restructure my goals, create new ones and just relax and be in the mist of my own presents, and it was AMAZING. 

The end of the year is approaching, this is a perfect time to take a timeout and regroup and do what you want to do. Make sure you are still on the path that you have set for yourself, or perhaps it is time to take an alternate route.  Take a break, enjoy some “self “time and remember that beautiful butterfly that we see fluttering around didn’t happen overnight but the end results are always worth it.

“If one is lucky, solitary fantasy can totally transform one million realities” –Dr. Maya Angelou