April 2011

One of my contacts on BBM had a status that read, “if you knew better you’d do better” I stopped and thought about this statement and its true meaning. It made me think about all the things we, as women do know yet we chose not to see it or avoid it, especially in relationships. I’m sure we’ve all had those relationships where we knew we shouldn’t be in and/or could do so much better, yet, we stayed. ..Or how about those arguments that could have definitely been avoided, yet, we chose to engage anyway. We seem to or think we have all the answers at times, but we chose not to see it even when it’s right in front of our faces. So is it true, if we did know better would we even do better?
I wanted to discuss this because too many times I have heard about women and their relationship stories and so many “faults” women share about their man and it makes me wonder if he is so bad or wrong why stay with him? Ladies, please don’t take offense, BUT we really know how to complain and complain and complain about our men and how they didn’t do this or didn’t do that, or they need this or need that. Seriously, if he makes you that upset or you’re not comfortable with his lifestyle, why do you stay? It appears you know better but doing better is whole other story.
Many months ago Rev. Run (for those that are on twitter @revrunwisdom) posted a quote that stood out to me “If you tolerate it you lose your right to complain about it” I couldn’t agree more with this statement. If someone in your life is doing something that you just cannot stand and you have a talk with them and the two of you cannot come to a common ground that’s comfortable for both parties, something has to give. I’m not 100 percent sure what has to give but something must, constantly complaining about a person isn’t a product of a healthy relationship for you or them and it will just leave room for confusion and anguish, and who has time for that…I surely don’t.

~Be what you SEEK~

Welcome to “Hump Day”!!! The day of the week where you feel like you’ve gotten so far, yet the weekend is still so long away. At this point everyone irritates you, gets on your nerves, and your patience are beyond shot. Don’t act like you don’t have a clue what I’m talking about… you know! This is the day where you should constantly test yourself. Learn how to flip everything and use it to benefit you.

Think about this… You are the cause of your own happiness. No one can make you happy or sad or any other emotion if you don’t want him or her to. Wake up in the morning with a purpose. Say to yourself no matter what happens today I will be happy and I will enjoy myself. Now I know this is hard when co-workers are nagging at you, or your friends are putting all their problems and issues on you, but you have to step back and ask yourself… will this determine my happiness for the day? If you want to be happy, then be happy! This may sound hard, but try putting things in perspective, and give your self something to look forward to. If you keep your head up and a smile on your face, it just may make people think twice about approaching you with their own bullshit, for fear of ruining your day. And you never know, maybe your smile and cheer will brighten up someone else’s day, in turn continuing to brighten yours.

Never allow someone else to take your power from you!

SAY MY NAME!!!!

Call me by my name! If my name is Michelle don't call me Mary. If my name is Danielle don't call me Denise. If my name is Jamie don't call me Amy. You get the idea. If you don't call me by name I will correct you. I had a co-worker of mine do the exact thing to me. After being corrected his response was "ah close enough." Really?! Close enough?

Not sure where you are from, but where I am from and how I was raised, that is taken as disrespect in the first degree. You deserve to be called by your proper name. You deserve the respect of someone calling you by your name and when corrected they apologize and correct themselves.

Never think that it's ok to be belittled and called out your name. No one deserves to get the response, "ah close enough." You stand up for yourself and make sure it never happens again, to you or anyone else. If you see this happening to someone else and they don't stand up for themselves, I ask of you please stand up for them and tell them they deserve better. Hopefully they will believe you and pay it forward!

SAY MY NAME!!

Hey Ladies,

I was jamming to the new Kirk Franklin CD / song this morning called I Smile. It’s something about this song that is very refreshing, encouraging, and uplifting. I know some us may be unemployed or employed at a place where we may not be completely happy and it seems like we literally drag ourselves outside of the bed to make it. But after hearing this song, it made me realize we have to be grateful for the mere factor that we even woke up to see another day. It’s a gift to have another opportunity to make a change within ourselves and make a change in society; we should just smile about life itself, no matter how hard it appears to be. I don’t know about you, but there are several things I take for granted in my life and it’s not even on purpose, it’s just that I’m comfortable, and when you become comfortable that’s when you become complacent and start to focus on the things you don’t have instead of being grateful for the things you do have.

Hearing this song this morning just made me realize life is not always easy however, it’s all about how you play and handle the cards you were dealt. And I truly believe if we appreciated our lives more and had a deeper passion and love for ourselves we all could wake up with a Smile and pour some of that positive energy on to someone else.

Just a little food for thought! Have a great day ladies!